The Best Way You Can Paddle Confidently Into Life’s Devastating Storms – 3 Helpful Tips (And 1 Extra!)

Why not paddle your little canoe right into the raging storm with confident expectation, friend? (And may your arms grow stronger with each paddle you row.)

I was sitting on the seashore, enjoying a snack, and watching the storm. The storm was the new life challenge that had thrust itself upon us, like waves of trouble from a Tsunami. I dried off because the storm’s splashes had already reached me, and then backed up, further up the shoreline, to regroup.

What do we do next?

Join people in fifty-eight countries who read this to gain valuable life wisdom! (Or maybe they’re just laughing at me? . . . Whatever!)

I spoke on the phone with a friend later that week, and she reminded me, “The front cover of the book that you have already purchased has the name of all three of those diagnoses your child has just been told she has, you know.”

“Did it?” I ran to get the book.

Several years earlier, when this same friend told me about this book, there was a nudge, a whisper from God.

Buy the book.

It was a book about a radical way of eating (i.e., NOT two-thirds of kid’s diets as highly processed food, which is the “normal” way children eat in our culture – I’m good at knowing about that!). This diet and regimen to cut out everyday toxins from modern life (which is a thing, too – there’s even science on this, but more on that later) was helping some kids.

But our kids were fine, or so we thought at the time.

And yet, that gentle nudge to buy the book.

I did buy the book and then sat down with my bowl of chips and hot chocolate to read about intense diet changes, to kale and beef liver and chicken broth that seemed to heal some kid’s guts, and THEN ALSO THEIR LEARNING DISABILITIES.

“Sounds like a nice idea,” I thought. I tried a few recipes half-heartedly, adding extra sugar out of habit. “Too much work,” I thought, abandoning the book soon after, and returning to our regular Froot Loops and ice cream diet.

But this friend, in my moment of desperation, kindly pointed out that the book’s title seemed to offer hope to some children with learning disabilities.

And so, what did I have to lose?

Try it, Holy Spirit seemed to nudge to the longings in my own heart, despite my protests that if I was going to eat this way too (at least in front of my children), I COULDN’T give up my multiple treat breaks EVERY DAY!

And so here I was at a fork in the road on my path of life.

Would I follow where it seemed God was perhaps leading us?

Or would I continue my own path, with the blaring fire alarm bells of multiple appointments to visit with autism and learning disability experts screaming at us over and over until this child leaves home? Would I sail full steam ahead into the storm of this recent challenge and spend my time covering my daughter with my arms, trying to hold on to her to help her not fall out of the lifesaving boat? It seemed she could fall into the sea if I sent her to various “experts” so I could continue life as usual.

The prognoses of experts weren’t very hopeful.

Would I set sail in my own canoe, my daughter and I veering off in a slightly different direction from most others in our situation, one that offered hope that the stormy seas would become a bit less violent and that eventually she could learn to paddle this boat herself, to soar into her own journey of increased independence as an adult, reaching more of her potential?

I looked at my skinny arms that didn’t have much strength to paddle very far. “Well, I guess I’ll get a bit stronger as I row,” I thought, my daughter too unwell to do any oaring yet, herself. I had only this book, as the night star to guide me. Would we reach calm seas someday, or would we perish in the effort?

It was time to find out.

We pushed the canoe out, and my daughter and I began our healing journey together.

And she was healed, told, for example, years later, among other things, that she “no longer meets the criteria for a learning disability.”

But that part comes later. Oh, and I was healed too, but I don’t want to spoil the rest of the story.

And so, what is the best way to face the storms and challenges we encounter in our lives?

  1. We find people who have arrived at the destination we want to go.
  2. We follow them.
  3. If this means turning aside from “expert” advice, advice that seems to lead to a place we don’t want to end up (we’ll talk about that next time), so be it.
  4. Bonus! Extra Tip! – (We follow Jesus when it seems He is walking just ahead of us, nudging us onto a narrower path.)

Don’t look for shortcuts to God. The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for a successful life that can be practiced in your spare time. Don’t fall for that stuff, even though crowds of people do . . . These words I speak to you are not incidental additions to your life, homeowner improvements to your standard of living. They are foundational words, words to build a life on.

The Message

As the song below sings, “What’s the plan ‘cause I have no clue what to do with these hands,” what do you long to ask God about the recent storm in your life? Where does your heart sense Him leading you? Will you follow?

(And I will pray for your own transformation, too, as you endure the weather you encounter while travelling the seas of life.)

Thanks for liking me! I like you too! – Proven HEREHERE, and HERE! Let’s journey together!

Photo Credits: Sailing Into This Boat’s Stormy Sea by Art Institute of Chicago on Unsplash, What Weather Will There Be After The Storm? by Mauro Gigli on Unsplash, and Why Not Soar? by Giuseppe Gurrieri on Unsplash

How To Wake Up To Divine Moments – Treasure The Clues

So, my toddler said she saw an angel one day.

Fast forward about seven years. We had moved to another house by that time. The subject of angels came up over lunch.

“You saw an angel once,” I ventured to that same child, now about ten years old.

I wondered if she would remember.

“WHAATT?” Her older sister demanded. She prided herself, as an older sister’s right, to know ALL of the family stories. How had she never heard this one?

I hadn’t mentioned it in all those years except for telling one friend and my husband what happened immediately afterward.

Who would have believed her anyway?

Children don’t have many words when they are three years old. Would she remember the incident now? And if so, could put more words around the experience? As much as possible, I wanted the conversation to come from her, not directed by me or influenced by my memory.

“Do you remember seeing an angel?” I ventured.

She said, “Yes”

I wanted to test her, to see if she was speaking accurately.

“Where were you when you saw the angel?”

“At the other house.”

I was startled.

Yes.

“And where was the angel?”

She said, “Outside”.

Oh no, I thought, she doesn’t remember. This event happened in the playroom. I was about to clean up the dishes when she continued, explaining more, “The angel was outside”.

Oh! Yes, I thought, the angel was outside the window we were staring at. That made sense.

Without my prompting, she explained that she was looking out the window in the playroom at the time.

She had remembered this very incident, which brought me shivers. This child was officially diagnosed with memory challenges a short time after this event*.

And yet she remembered the details of this event from many years earlier.

“What did you see?” I asked gently.

“The angel was singing. It had gold shoes and a gold sash.”

I sensed that we were standing on holy ground.

“Oh,” I said.

What else was there to say?

And then we finished our lunch.

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And what is our response when divine moments encroach upon our lives?

Everyone should allow divine moments, either our own or others, to propel them further along God’s spiritual path for them. But how? The softness of our heart, exposed as one of three common responses, will determine whether we stay stuck in the mud spiritually or whether we are launched further and deeper along our spiritual paths.

In the next post, we will evaluate these most common heart responses after God interrupts the mundane.

He ordered his angels to guard you wherever you go.

The Message

God, thank you that sometimes, for a brief moment, You open our eyes to the possibility of the divine through our or others’ experiences.

Help us wake up to grasp what is right before us when our eyes are opened and our ears can hear. Help us to speak openly about what we have heard and seen. May the unusual become commonplace in each of our lives, we pray.

While we do not place our faith directly in angels, we should place it in the God who rules the angels; then we can have peace.

Billy Graham

What unusual divine moments have you experienced? Or what is a sacred moment that another has told you about that seemed plausible? Has this moment or a curiosity about this experience propelled your spiritual journey?

Blogpost Footnotes

*These cognitive challenges were later healed years after this event through diet, but that is a story for another day.

What Did God Say? Heal Our Children? Are Our Ears Clean?

I wasn’t sure if I could keep the car on the road because I couldn’t see through my tears.

The downpour we were driving through didn’t help, either. “Keep it together. Keep it together. . .” was my mantra until I could get inside, close the door to the world, and let these emotions out.

I wasn’t sure I would be able to drive the car home.

Inside, I collapsed behind a closed door and told my husband the news. His sadness began deep, deep in his soul, in the place where love resides, and found its expression. It was the future we mourned.

A dark cloud had cast a shadow over the future of one of our children. Like a candle in the snow, her joyful little light was sensing wind on the horizon. And the odd pieces of cardboard I found nearby to try to shield her from the wind didn’t look like enough right now.

Heal her, God whispered to me months later.

I was minding my own business, letting my mind wander while in the hot tub.

“Um, what now?” I asked. I sat upright and perked up my ears. “What did you say?”

Silence.

I had heard him. Would I take the next step in faith? Or would I put cotton in my ears and dunk my head under the hot tub, ensuring I could not hear any more of this foolish talk?

They told me this was incurable. Everyone knew that! The best we could hope for was some moderate success with behaviour modification – a few small wins.

And so, which road should I take?

This is where we stumble.

Is that a jewel I just about stepped on along the path of life?

Will we pick it up, inspect it, hold it to the light and find a friend with a hammer to crack it open?

Or will we put it in our pocket to consider later if we remember?

The joys and the sorrows of life arrive, and we hang up our clothes at the end of the day. We forget them there for awhile. When we remember, through foggy memories, that there may be a jewel in our pocket (!), we look again, but it fell out. There are only the singed edges of our pocket to remind us that we were holding a bit of heaven for a while.

But it’s gone now.

What’s for lunch?

And God feels far away, again, even though He just descended from heaven to meet us. We treated His gift like just another stone on the path. Will we catch the next jewel He holds out to us? Will our eyes be open enough to see this time, or will we trample, again, the precious jewel that He offers, His firelight shining in the darkness?

It’s only a sparkle at first.

Time to bow low and fan the flame of His voice in your life, friend?

Come along. Let’s journey together.

Oh. And she was healed, God guiding and then redeeming my pathetic attempts to listen, Him re-directing me and helping me up when discouragement hit. For that is His way.

Jesus said, “There is no need to dismiss them. You give them supper.”

“All we have are five loaves of bread and two fish,” they said.

Jesus said, “Bring them here.” . . . The disciples then gave the food to the congregation. They all ate their fill. They gathered twelve baskets of leftovers. About five thousand were fed.

The Message

We give Him what we have. It’s all we have but it’s not very much. We work with Him, following His direction so that the miracle can occur.

But that is a story for another time.

It’s also a repetitive story found here and here and in any heart willing to receive what He offers.

Ready for an adventure into the miraculous?

Ten Keystone Habits To Achieve A Healthy Weight And Stay There

“Well, that must be nice for you,” they spit at me. (Wait, I know you don’t spit, either. We talked about that in another post. But it ruins the effect, if I don’t keep that part. You can’t expect perfect truth in every blog post.)

Anyway, my mouth was full of chocolate, some of it dripping from the corners of my mouth. “Huh?” I asked.

She continued, “Well, you can obviously eat whatever you want.”

I guessed she was referring to the fact that I am a healthy weight and my mouth was currently full of chocolate – overfull actually.

But what she didn’t see were the habits I (ir)regularly follow behind the scenes.

Here they are.

A caveat before we begin is that I’ve never had professional training as a nutritionist. But I’ve read a ton on the side about food and health. And like a boxer in a ring, who has been fighting her entire life with someone about the same strength as her, I have maintained a healthy weight my entire life.

This didn’t come easy.

I’m still fighting.

(Following God’s direction and a neurologist’s advice, I also prepared the food that healed my kid’s learning disabilities, but that is a discussion for another time).

This is what I do to fight the temptations and the cultural normalcy of food that is anything but normal or healthy.

I made my own point system, and give myself two points daily for each healthy habit completed. One point if I grew in habit development that day.

Here are my top ten habits. The total maximum points in a day is 20 points.

1. Two points for drinking the recommended water allocation in a day.

2. Two points for doing one hour of exercise. Must break a sweat to get two points.

3. Two points for eating a green smoothie in the morning.

4. Two points for having a salad for lunch.

5. Two points for having cut-up veggies and a yummy dip available so these can be snacked on during the day.

6. Two points for eating one plate of food and then waiting 20 minutes before having seconds.

7. Two points for having a cup of chamomile tea with honey and nothing else after dinner.

8. Two points for not eating breakfast till 10:00 am.

9. Two points for having an energy ball (fruit and cheese, or fruit and nuts can be substituted in a pinch) in mid-afternoon.

10. This is my favourite habit and I will explain why when I describe it in a minute. Two points for not having any dessert if today is a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday or Saturday.

The happy side effect of this habit is that since dessert is allowed on Sunday, we get two points for eating dessert on Sunday! Stuff your face with chocolate on Sunday, let it drip from the corners of your mouth (Why does that happen so often to me?) and watch them bemoan the fact that you’ve never even tried, yet you are a healthy weight.

Ha! The joke’s on them.

Why growing in these habits can eventually become an absolute delight will be discussed next time.