How do we develop an exercise routine we can stick to as parents?
We must morph into the parents we never dreamed we’d become.
And I mean to become the parent we feared we would become.
I’ll explain.
It all started the day I started sniffing my kid’s butts.
When I was a well-coiffed, austere young woman in my twenties, I wrinkled up my nose at those homesteading women with several children crowding around them as they made cookies and managed a beehive simultaneously. “Isn’t that disgusting?” my sophisticated friends and I whispered, and we looked away in horror when one of these busy moms lifted her toddler, sniffed around their child’s middle for signs of a “Number two” and quickly set them back down on the floor again. This mom then happily continued stirring cookies, unpasteurized honey, or whatever she did all day.
“I would never do that butt-sniffing manoeuvre!”
When my children were toddlers, I gasped my way to a mom and toddler’s event one morning, my hair dishevelled, unmatched dirty clothing thrown over my and my toddler’s forms. I was clinging to a half-drunk coffee for dear life as I sat next to a fellow mom and empathized delightedly with her. We shared similar tales of near survival, of these miniature beings often holding us hostage to their need.
Suddenly, I remembered that I should probably check the older daughter, who was not yet fully toilet trained.
I grabbed my daughter’s arm and yanked her away from her friend. My daughter morphed from playing contentedly to screaming like a fire truck. I nearly lost the battle of the wills but managed to stuff her into the change-room, where I opened her training diaper and
. . . nothing.
There was nothing there.
When I returned to my friend, she was already chatting with another dishevelled woman, and for the rest of that “mom’s time,” my two toddlers had incessant needs again.
So it didn’t take long before I happily lifted my toddlers when they were playing contentedly, smelled their butts, and set them back down again with a wink and a nod.
I continued my coffee and well-deserved amiable chat with other homeschooling parent survivors,
My identity had shifted.
And similarly, what kind of identity shift do we need to become the kind of homeschooling parent who exercises?
1. We realize that if we are going to stay in this game long-haul we’ve got to surrender our pre-conceived ideas of success as defined by this culture, or worse, by our expectations of ourselves.
2. Our identity must be firmly linked to those who are societally undignified. We delight in our identity as children of the king, not as classy members of a specific culture (i.e. of any culture).
3. We have fun, dancing with joy with our two-year-olds because we finally figured out that when we are happy, our little ones are too.
Throw off your chains, captive daughter . . . ! God says, “You were sold for nothing. You’re being bought back for nothing.”
And it was this change in perspective, from “culturally respectable” to “daughter of the King,” that led me to be the kind of parent who exercises regularly, as well.
The link between a shift in identity and exercise will be discussed another time.
I promise to say something useful sometime! That is if I remember to finish this blogpost series on exercising when homeschooling. This post was essential to set the foundation for when we will dive into the nitty-gritty of the shift in identity required to exercise while homeschooling young children.
For now, the first step is to stop trying to be “respectable”!
It doesn’t work anyway!
You’re welcome!
Good luck!
Restoring Life 