The Best Way You Can Paddle Confidently Into Life’s Devastating Storms – 3 Helpful Tips (And 1 Extra!)

Why not paddle your little canoe right into the raging storm with confident expectation, friend? (And may your arms grow stronger with each paddle you row.)

I was sitting on the seashore, enjoying a snack, and watching the storm. The storm was the new life challenge that had thrust itself upon us, like waves of trouble from a Tsunami. I dried off because the storm’s splashes had already reached me, and then backed up, further up the shoreline, to regroup.

What do we do next?

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I spoke on the phone with a friend later that week, and she reminded me, “The front cover of the book that you have already purchased has the name of all three of those diagnoses your child has just been told she has, you know.”

“Did it?” I ran to get the book.

Several years earlier, when this same friend told me about this book, there was a nudge, a whisper from God.

Buy the book.

It was a book about a radical way of eating (i.e., NOT two-thirds of kid’s diets as highly processed food, which is the “normal” way children eat in our culture – I’m good at knowing about that!). This diet and regimen to cut out everyday toxins from modern life (which is a thing, too – there’s even science on this, but more on that later) was helping some kids.

But our kids were fine, or so we thought at the time.

And yet, that gentle nudge to buy the book.

I did buy the book and then sat down with my bowl of chips and hot chocolate to read about intense diet changes, to kale and beef liver and chicken broth that seemed to heal some kid’s guts, and THEN ALSO THEIR LEARNING DISABILITIES.

“Sounds like a nice idea,” I thought. I tried a few recipes half-heartedly, adding extra sugar out of habit. “Too much work,” I thought, abandoning the book soon after, and returning to our regular Froot Loops and ice cream diet.

But this friend, in my moment of desperation, kindly pointed out that the book’s title seemed to offer hope to some children with learning disabilities.

And so, what did I have to lose?

Try it, Holy Spirit seemed to nudge to the longings in my own heart, despite my protests that if I was going to eat this way too (at least in front of my children), I COULDN’T give up my multiple treat breaks EVERY DAY!

And so here I was at a fork in the road on my path of life.

Would I follow where it seemed God was perhaps leading us?

Or would I continue my own path, with the blaring fire alarm bells of multiple appointments to visit with autism and learning disability experts screaming at us over and over until this child leaves home? Would I sail full steam ahead into the storm of this recent challenge and spend my time covering my daughter with my arms, trying to hold on to her to help her not fall out of the lifesaving boat? It seemed she could fall into the sea if I sent her to various “experts” so I could continue life as usual.

The prognoses of experts weren’t very hopeful.

Would I set sail in my own canoe, my daughter and I veering off in a slightly different direction from most others in our situation, one that offered hope that the stormy seas would become a bit less violent and that eventually she could learn to paddle this boat herself, to soar into her own journey of increased independence as an adult, reaching more of her potential?

I looked at my skinny arms that didn’t have much strength to paddle very far. “Well, I guess I’ll get a bit stronger as I row,” I thought, my daughter too unwell to do any oaring yet, herself. I had only this book, as the night star to guide me. Would we reach calm seas someday, or would we perish in the effort?

It was time to find out.

We pushed the canoe out, and my daughter and I began our healing journey together.

And she was healed, told, for example, years later, among other things, that she “no longer meets the criteria for a learning disability.”

But that part comes later. Oh, and I was healed too, but I don’t want to spoil the rest of the story.

And so, what is the best way to face the storms and challenges we encounter in our lives?

  1. We find people who have arrived at the destination we want to go.
  2. We follow them.
  3. If this means turning aside from “expert” advice, advice that seems to lead to a place we don’t want to end up (we’ll talk about that next time), so be it.
  4. Bonus! Extra Tip! – (We follow Jesus when it seems He is walking just ahead of us, nudging us onto a narrower path.)

Don’t look for shortcuts to God. The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for a successful life that can be practiced in your spare time. Don’t fall for that stuff, even though crowds of people do . . . These words I speak to you are not incidental additions to your life, homeowner improvements to your standard of living. They are foundational words, words to build a life on.

The Message

As the song below sings, “What’s the plan ‘cause I have no clue what to do with these hands,” what do you long to ask God about the recent storm in your life? Where does your heart sense Him leading you? Will you follow?

(And I will pray for your own transformation, too, as you endure the weather you encounter while travelling the seas of life.)

Thanks for liking me! I like you too! – Proven HEREHERE, and HERE! Let’s journey together!

Photo Credits: Sailing Into This Boat’s Stormy Sea by Art Institute of Chicago on Unsplash, What Weather Will There Be After The Storm? by Mauro Gigli on Unsplash, and Why Not Soar? by Giuseppe Gurrieri on Unsplash

When Your Storm Ushers In A Deeper Calm – How To Find The Path

Got time to reach out for a bit of peace to hang onto during your storm, friend?

seawaves

So previously I talked about the day that our child received the diagnoses of:

  • Specific Learning Disorder -SLD
  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder- ADHD, inactive presentation (previously Attention Deficit Disorder -ADD)
  • Autism Spectrum Disorder -ASD

So clearly, the night skies weren’t predicting clear skies and smooth sailing for this child. These diagnoses were the first true storm that woke us up to trouble ahead. Up until that day, we thought our growing feeling of seasickness was due more to our own queasy stomachs than to the ominous, ongoing waves of the sea that were making us feel unwell.

Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping.

Ancient Text 

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I was devastated by these diagnoses in all honesty. Our beautiful, kind daughter, the one who tried so hard, loved so completely, and who still had her whole life in front of her, seemed to be in a fog most of the time.

We tried to wake her up with “Enrichment Activities” the experts recommended when she was a baby, but she still slept for 20 hours a day, piling up her milestones behind her while she slept.

It seemed that the horizon of her future would be truncated and shorter than the full expanse that we hope for each of our children.

What now? We were ushered into the new world of “Autism and Special Education” appointments with experts, which were like annoying fire alarms set into our otherwise peaceful homeschooling days. Having fun quietly playing a board game with a sibling?

“TOO BAD! You HAVE to go to X appointment RIGHT Now!”

Sometimes, often, she would scream in protest at these new, unwelcome interruptions, but I would force her into the car, strap her seatbelt so she couldn’t resist, and drive away, my supermom cape trailing behind me as I drove.

“Experts knew best!” I reminded myself as I drove! Except when they don’t. And they usually don’t in these situations.

But that’s for another time.

Got a stomach that can handle some seasickness, friend? Maybe take some Gravol for the seasickness before you read on. There.

Are you feeling better?

And now let’s sit for a bit by the seaside before we decide to board that boat together. The journey I am suggesting will require learning some sailing skills and building our physiques. Up for a challenge?

If so, what challenge or storm has surprised you on your journey?

Let’s sit here by the ocean, friend, and ask God for your next steps.

And so, how do we find the path through your storm?

  1. We listen for His voice, whisper, or gentle nudge.
  2. We go where He leads.
  3. He lean on Him to give us strength for the journey.

As the song below plays, imagine that Jesus is right next to you. He is! Smile at this knowledge! Do you feel your soul relax? As you ponder the lyrics, “You are the peace in my troubled sea,” or “Your great love will lead me through,” consider sitting in the quiet for a few minutes and asking Jesus, “How can I stand behind You, and then row this boat ashore, with You guiding and directing, to help us sail through this storm?”

And I pray that God leads you through your storm, friend, as you listen closely to Him guiding you.

The journey is a thing, but you’ve got this, holding the hand of the one who walks with us on raging seas and sometimes even calming the seas raging in our lives. Oh! And our child was healed of the negative challenges associated with all of these diagnoses.

But I’ll have to tell you that story another time.

Thanks for liking me! I like you too! – Proven HEREHERE, and HERE! Let’s journey together!

Photo Credit – Some Storms May Look Like This by Marcus Woodbridge on Unsplash